There is great purpose power in the vocal sounds we make while experiencing sexual pleasure. This power is not simply about a performance, but being more engaged in our bodies; and in turn open ourselves to more sensation.
Hey there friends,
One thing I love about working for myself is creating my own schedule. I've been having a little staycation the past couple weeks, and apologies to anyone who has been trying to book! I've been home with my recently adopted dog and taking some much needed alone time.
I like to think taking this time is a part of what I offer when I'm working. My perspective, ethics and talent in my work come from the heart- and that means a lot of restoration and self healing and love.
So with that said, my ads just went back up and I'm finally catching up with my e-mails. Hoping to post some new content soon.
What a wild and beautiful time this month has been. I feel like I just shed so many layers, and this photo is a representation of self-love I am able to reflect.
The last two weeks I was deeply engaged in some personal healing. This involved a lot of rest, alone time and self reflection, psychotherapy, as well as physical and energetic therapies and healing work. I called upon meditation, candle magic, bath rituals and the love and support of those closest to me.
And alas, I emerge out of the cocoon. While this work is not yet finished, and I am not sure that it ever will be... learning to love myself has been expansive and undeniably important. I am sure I will devolve back into a hairy little caterpillar again as I am humbled by the world around me; but today- my wings flutter and glitter falls upon the trails I blaze. And it feels good.
Brooklyn, NY 2018
I had a great time shooting some new photos this weekend. It was both scary and liberating shooting lingerie in a public park. I'm glad I did it and looking forward to expressing my body and image in new ways.
First round of photos is up in my gallery.
Please feel free to comment here with what you think! Comments can be anonymous and are always appreciated!
"Last week, I had a session with Vanessa. Even though I've tried tantra a few times, my anxiety around intimacy is profound. At 28, I have little experience. Desperately trying to get over these issues, I reached out to Vanessa. She is real, and answered my questions and curiosities. We started talking and then slowly began. My anxieties around intimacy has definitely decreased. Go in with no expectations and you will find some inner peace. Vanessa is also funny, which helps."
We all need to start somewhere. And sometimes, we need to restart or start again. Sexuality isn't all about intimacy, and intimacy isn't all about sexuality but these qualities of human connection intersect. Often, we all experience anxiety in these places. Maybe we are "late bloomers" or we've taken a lot of time to ourselves in isolation, or become estranged from our own partners...
An amazing part about my work, and that of other sex-professionals is that I can be a safe space to experience sexuality and intimacy. It's literally my job to facilitate that space! We can come together, and truly open ourselves without the stressful context that dating and sex often hold. There are no ties that bind us to our egos as with other spaces. This opens and opportunity to free our souls, even for a moment... We can be an avatar, a child, a sex witch and leave everything else behind. At that moment, when the soul shines- we are reminded of this sparkle in ourselves, and can leave knowing and remembering that it exists.
Last week I was a part of a birthday celebration for two lovely people. I don't often work with couples, but this reminded me just how much fun it can be! I think working all together takes SO much skillful communication, to keep everyone feeling sexy, grounded and explorative. My goal is to awaken and arouse our sacred triangulation; and then gracefully exit- leaving the lovers just stewing in the chemistry created.
Last week I learned a lot and felt reinvigorated with my own knowledge and practice, and inspired to share.
Here is the review which I just posted in my testimonials...
"Spent an amazing evening with my girlfriend and Vanessa as a birthday present to myself. Vanessa is truly a beautiful human being. She is sensual, smart, gorgeous, thoughtful, caring and beyond sexy. She is a master of the sensual arts and moves her body like a goddess... You should find a way to make this happen for yourself."
Athens, Greece 2017
I spent a lot of time in the sun this weekend.
The winter seemed so long, and now I'm not so used to the heat.
I need to let my skin and body slowly become imbued
with the sun rays,
bringing out the golden glow in my skin.
NYC based practitioner of sacred sexuality, cosmic sensual attuning, mind/time travel, and divine sensual arts.